But instead of writing every detail of our Christmas week, I will simply post some photos that will tell the tales for me. Enjoy!
Thursday, December 29, 2016
Christmas
Christmas in Thailand was relaxing and mellow. There was no Christmas advertising bombardment, no Black Friday, no children begging for a long list of toys. Instead, we spent our time doing fun things around town, treating ourselves well, and taking time to watch the sun rise above a sea of clouds. Did we miss family and friends? Definitely. Did we miss cutting and trimming the tree, setting up lights, shopping, or shoveling snow? Not so much...We managed to have a few Christmas dinners, go swimming, ride tandem bikes, feed elephants, and even get tattoos!
But instead of writing every detail of our Christmas week, I will simply post some photos that will tell the tales for me. Enjoy!
But instead of writing every detail of our Christmas week, I will simply post some photos that will tell the tales for me. Enjoy!
Tuesday, December 20, 2016
Playing Catch Up
I have discovered that so much happens here in any given week that if I don't write about it quickly in this blog, I won't want to write about it because too much experience accumulates, making me feel overwhelmed and lazy about sifting and sorting through it all, looking for a common thread with which to weave a tale for you. Alas it has happened again. There's too much going on to report it all, but there are a few things that stand out in my mind as being the most impactful. To wit:
I have finally finished my semester teaching at the university, turned in my grades and received my final pay check and it feels good. My experience was less than satisfactory, to say the least, and now I am on to better things. Next month I will start teaching at the school that is our rock here, where Jess and the kids have gone every day. Soon, we will all get out of the car together each morning and literally spend every waking minute together! I have been hired to help the younger kids at the school with different aspects of English literacy and to continue my classes in ESL with the (mostly) upper elementary classroom. From my post in the school's library, I will shush noisy kids and assist the more bookish ones with appropriate selections for their perusal. I will be a children's librarian!
In other news, Radd has begun his career as a Muy Thai fighter. After learning the basics of the sport in gym class, he took a few karate lessons, until his sensei broke his hand in a motorcycle wreck. So, now he training under our neighbor's expert tutelage. He (our neighbor) is a former Muy Thai champ, with the most wins of any foreigner in Thailand. He's also a really great guy, so Radd has fun in his gym and feels very encouraged.
Suni is continuing to take violin lessons at school twice a week for an hour each time. She's got a ways to go on her technique, but she is picking up notation reading and her understanding of the instrument quite quickly, in my humble and most objective opinion. On Friday this week, she will have her first performance playing Silent Night and Jingle Bells for the whole world to enjoy.
Speaking of Jingle Bells, the school is preparing for their Christmas Celebration and I must say, I'm a little surprised by how enthusiastic everyone is. In the school of 100 kids, probably 98% are Buddhist, but I guess Christmas Spirit is infectious. Who can resist a Christmas tree, lights, ornaments, carols and good cheer? Jess' class is even doing a Nativity play with Radd cast as the wise man who brings myrrh (the wisest one, if you ask me).
And finally, in the last week, we have had dinner with two Thai families on two separate occasions, and are truly feeling the love of this country. Last Friday, we spent with the parents of Radd's school buddy. After a delicious meal, we had dessert and a great conversation about life, culture, politics, the future, you name it. We even made plans to go camping with them in a few week's time, such was our mutual enjoyment of each other's company.
And last night, our friend's from Bangkok, Bow and Ake, came up to Chiang Rai for a visit to the north and met us at a popular Thai restaurant. We enjoyed many northern dishes and shared a couple beers too, along with the aforementioned conversations about life, culture, politics, the future, etc. etc. It also filled our hearts with happiness to spend time with them and their precious little girl Neptune.
All this and next week is vacation time! It's hard to believe it, but it gets better. We are planning on going to a place called Pu Chi Fa to watch the sun rise over a sea of clouds and then to a quiet little spot on the Mekong River for a day or two to relax. With the weather being what it is, we are trying to spend as much time outside as possible while we watch web cam footage of Bozeman's deep freeze. You have no idea how much joy it brings to see these images with a cold beer in my hand and flip flops on my feet. Bwahahahahaha!!!!!!
Fresh veggies on the street!
Fill 'er up! Getting gas hand cranked out of a 50 gallon drum.
Peekaboo! Radd sticking his head out of the back of the Big White Buddha's head.
I have finally finished my semester teaching at the university, turned in my grades and received my final pay check and it feels good. My experience was less than satisfactory, to say the least, and now I am on to better things. Next month I will start teaching at the school that is our rock here, where Jess and the kids have gone every day. Soon, we will all get out of the car together each morning and literally spend every waking minute together! I have been hired to help the younger kids at the school with different aspects of English literacy and to continue my classes in ESL with the (mostly) upper elementary classroom. From my post in the school's library, I will shush noisy kids and assist the more bookish ones with appropriate selections for their perusal. I will be a children's librarian!
In other news, Radd has begun his career as a Muy Thai fighter. After learning the basics of the sport in gym class, he took a few karate lessons, until his sensei broke his hand in a motorcycle wreck. So, now he training under our neighbor's expert tutelage. He (our neighbor) is a former Muy Thai champ, with the most wins of any foreigner in Thailand. He's also a really great guy, so Radd has fun in his gym and feels very encouraged.
Suni is continuing to take violin lessons at school twice a week for an hour each time. She's got a ways to go on her technique, but she is picking up notation reading and her understanding of the instrument quite quickly, in my humble and most objective opinion. On Friday this week, she will have her first performance playing Silent Night and Jingle Bells for the whole world to enjoy.
Speaking of Jingle Bells, the school is preparing for their Christmas Celebration and I must say, I'm a little surprised by how enthusiastic everyone is. In the school of 100 kids, probably 98% are Buddhist, but I guess Christmas Spirit is infectious. Who can resist a Christmas tree, lights, ornaments, carols and good cheer? Jess' class is even doing a Nativity play with Radd cast as the wise man who brings myrrh (the wisest one, if you ask me).
And finally, in the last week, we have had dinner with two Thai families on two separate occasions, and are truly feeling the love of this country. Last Friday, we spent with the parents of Radd's school buddy. After a delicious meal, we had dessert and a great conversation about life, culture, politics, the future, you name it. We even made plans to go camping with them in a few week's time, such was our mutual enjoyment of each other's company.
And last night, our friend's from Bangkok, Bow and Ake, came up to Chiang Rai for a visit to the north and met us at a popular Thai restaurant. We enjoyed many northern dishes and shared a couple beers too, along with the aforementioned conversations about life, culture, politics, the future, etc. etc. It also filled our hearts with happiness to spend time with them and their precious little girl Neptune.
All this and next week is vacation time! It's hard to believe it, but it gets better. We are planning on going to a place called Pu Chi Fa to watch the sun rise over a sea of clouds and then to a quiet little spot on the Mekong River for a day or two to relax. With the weather being what it is, we are trying to spend as much time outside as possible while we watch web cam footage of Bozeman's deep freeze. You have no idea how much joy it brings to see these images with a cold beer in my hand and flip flops on my feet. Bwahahahahaha!!!!!!
Fresh veggies on the street!
Fill 'er up! Getting gas hand cranked out of a 50 gallon drum.
Peekaboo! Radd sticking his head out of the back of the Big White Buddha's head.
Friday, December 2, 2016
Celebrating Thai Style
It has been a couple of weeks now, but November 14th was Loy Krathong in Thailand. It is celebrated on the full moon in November which happened to be the super moon this year. It is one of the most beautiful holidays when the Thai people give thanks to the river gods by floating "Krathongs" in the water. We were told that the celebration was off this year due to the king's death, but at the last minute (which is how most things happen here) all festivities were on.
We began the afternoon at school by making krathongs out of banana trunks as the base and banana leaves creatively folded and twisted to cover the slice of trunk. Once you had a foundation there was no end to the beautiful creations that can be made with all types of flowers (the classroom floor was covered with orchids and many other tropical bouquets found in the students' gardens).
After school we went down to the river just a few kilometers from the school under a major bypass through the town. We hung out for a while observing the locals' ways of saying a prayer, lighting their candles and incense on their krathong, and setting it afloat. It was also customary to set free turtles, catfish, and eels into the river that many people were selling along the way. Radd and Suni chose some baby catfish and snails to feed the river.
When the moon was rising we went up onto the top of the bridge to watch an impressive sight rise above the river to the east. It was all very peaceful to see the candlelit krathongs below us and the super moon above.
Another beautiful and impressive celebration we participated in recently (like today) was "Sports Day" at our school (Piti Suksa Montessori). As the name implies, this day was about celebrating sports, but also sportsmanship and cheering for your competitors and classmates. It also got the parents and teachers involved in some interesting events, like "drag your kid across the grass on a potato sack race." It was one of those days where it's impossible not to have fun.
The day started with a grand entrance complete with a runner carrying a flaming torch above his head. The runner was none other than our boy Radd! After the lighting of the flame, there was a flag raising ceremony, singing and dancing, a Thai boxing exhibition, baton twirling, and I don't know what else because it was just so full of activity. One of the highlights though, was the tug of war. First was the kindergartners, then an upper and lower elementary mix. Then came the parents vs. parents and finally the parents vs. teachers. Who doesn't love feats of strength? The whole school cheered loudly and enthusiastically for their team and in the end every team I pulled on lost. I blame my poor choice of footwear, but it may have been the other members of my team......
Anyway, in the end, the Red Dragons (our team) won the day with the most points, so Radd and Suni got to celebrate the big win and so we took them out for an early pizza dinner at our favorite pizza spot in Thailand, Bon Lom Jen. Scrumptious!
We began the afternoon at school by making krathongs out of banana trunks as the base and banana leaves creatively folded and twisted to cover the slice of trunk. Once you had a foundation there was no end to the beautiful creations that can be made with all types of flowers (the classroom floor was covered with orchids and many other tropical bouquets found in the students' gardens).
After school we went down to the river just a few kilometers from the school under a major bypass through the town. We hung out for a while observing the locals' ways of saying a prayer, lighting their candles and incense on their krathong, and setting it afloat. It was also customary to set free turtles, catfish, and eels into the river that many people were selling along the way. Radd and Suni chose some baby catfish and snails to feed the river.
When the moon was rising we went up onto the top of the bridge to watch an impressive sight rise above the river to the east. It was all very peaceful to see the candlelit krathongs below us and the super moon above.
Another beautiful and impressive celebration we participated in recently (like today) was "Sports Day" at our school (Piti Suksa Montessori). As the name implies, this day was about celebrating sports, but also sportsmanship and cheering for your competitors and classmates. It also got the parents and teachers involved in some interesting events, like "drag your kid across the grass on a potato sack race." It was one of those days where it's impossible not to have fun.
The day started with a grand entrance complete with a runner carrying a flaming torch above his head. The runner was none other than our boy Radd! After the lighting of the flame, there was a flag raising ceremony, singing and dancing, a Thai boxing exhibition, baton twirling, and I don't know what else because it was just so full of activity. One of the highlights though, was the tug of war. First was the kindergartners, then an upper and lower elementary mix. Then came the parents vs. parents and finally the parents vs. teachers. Who doesn't love feats of strength? The whole school cheered loudly and enthusiastically for their team and in the end every team I pulled on lost. I blame my poor choice of footwear, but it may have been the other members of my team......
Anyway, in the end, the Red Dragons (our team) won the day with the most points, so Radd and Suni got to celebrate the big win and so we took them out for an early pizza dinner at our favorite pizza spot in Thailand, Bon Lom Jen. Scrumptious!
Sunday, November 13, 2016
One for the books
I had a conversation about the weather with someone about 6 weeks ago. We talked about how hot it had been and that the new season was on the horizon. I told him that I honestly could not imagine the heat ever ending, or that it could actually be cold, as some people had told me. But he insisted that one day in October, I would wake up and the wind will have shifted overnight, and the sky will be bluer, and the air much cooler. Well, October came and went, but it seems that now in November, the wind has indeed shifted, bringing with it a new season. I don't know what to call this new season. It's not like any fall I've ever experienced, and it certainly is nothing like winter, but it is definitely different, and most importantly, cooler. In fact, I would go so far as to say that the weather in Chiang Rai Thailand right now is perfect, in the shade. This opens up a lot of potential for residents here. Now people can consider gathering outdoors and engaging in activity at any time of day! Imagine that!
So, along with the change in season has come a change for all of us to the next stage in culture shock: acceptance. I think all four of us feel completely comfortable navigating our way through our host country and city, meeting new people, encountering new situations and living here has become more of a joy and less of something to endure. Thus we have been very busy having fun lately. To wit:
On Saturday, we had arrangements to revisit the elephant sanctuary that I wrote about previously. The word was that they just received their elephants and were sufficiently adjusted to their new home to have a couple visitors. So a small group of us drove out to Elephant Valley Thailand to celebrate with the owners, Jack and Brigit. We spent half a day observing these four magnificent creatures eating bamboo and tall grass, throwing leaves around, trumpeting and stomping in the mud, and generally looking very comfortable and happy. We even had a chance to feed them some bananas, their favorite food. It was fantastic to see the development of the sanctuary, the infrastructure, the rehabilitation of the land, and the introduction of the elephants all finally coming together into a beautiful, harmoniously working system.
That same day, our lovely friend Irena, bless her heart, came to our house to watch the kids while Jess and I had a night on the town for my birthday celebration. We had heard that there was a little cafe downtown featuring live jazz, and since all live music had been cancelled for the mourning period of 30 days, this was even more of a treat, because it was an exception to the ban. Le Petit Cafe was a perfect place to start our evening. It was dark, intimate, and friendly. In fact, when the band got on stage, the singer noticed the two farang sitting in the back, and asked us (through the microphone) "Do you speak Thai?" We shook our heads "no" so she proceeded to translate everything she had said in English, which, it turns out, was an explanation of how the music they were going to play had been composed by the king as a lament about being away from his wife. It was a bit embarrassing to be singled out in front of everyone, but at the same time, we felt very welcomed and accepted too.
After Le Petit Cafe, we headed into the part of the city that is known for it's mostly farang bars. We went only because we had been hearing about these places for the past 4 months and hadn't ever visited this area, so it was a perfect time to find out what it was like. And now that we know, we don't have to go back....it was that underwhelming. Nevertheless, we had fun because we were together, having intelligent adult conversation uninterrupted by children for the first time in a long time. And there was beer.
On Sunday, we decided to check out an area by the river that seemed to be some kind of carnival. We drove in and realized it was part of the Loy Krathong Festival. This is one of Thailand's biggest festivals each year. It celebrates the water goddess who supplies the people with life giving water. People make or buy Krathongs, which are little rafts that hold flowers, incense, candles and sometimes small amounts of money as an offering to the goddess. They then float the krathongs down the river. Well, apparently, they also have carnivals too, so we walked around with the kids playing games of chance and skill, shopping and eating treats. It was yet another unique experience for us to enjoy and remember as part of our time here.
Then, on Sunday night, we went out to a delicious dinner with Irena and our other friends Ady, Sandy and their beautiful daughter. Who knew you could get life-changingly delicious barbecue ribs in Chiang Rai??? Another place we had heard about since we arrived was 71 degrees Celsius, a small but very popular restaurant not far from our house. It is deservedly famous for its ribs, but also features cocktails and salads. I didn't find out about the salads first hand, but I can vouch for the reputation of the ribs. For a few minutes, I had to close my eyes and just let the rolling waves of taste-pleasure wash through my brain as their house-made chili sauce dribbled down my chin and the cold Singha sat waiting for me to add it to the mix of delicate flavors in my mouth. And when the meat fest was over, we indulged in a fantastic chocolate cake made fresh by Ady.
Finally, at Radd's request. we walked across the bridge by the Loy Krathong festival to take in the carnival lights, as well as the lights from the floating krathongs moving peacefully along the current of the Kok River. It was a poetic ending to my Thai birthday weekend. One for the books, to be sure.
And so it is that we move into stage 3, where things are a bit easier and time moves a bit faster and our eventual departure from this beautiful place is considered with a bit more reluctance on everyone's part. Ahh but there are more good times ahead, so why waste time considering such thoughts? Better to sit outside,
considering and feeling the cool breeze now and appreciating it for its respite from the heat, but also for its temporal nature. When the winds blow us back to Montana, we will have time to look back and marvel at each moment we were given here. Then we will allow ourselves to feel sadness at its passing so quickly - but only for a moment.
So, along with the change in season has come a change for all of us to the next stage in culture shock: acceptance. I think all four of us feel completely comfortable navigating our way through our host country and city, meeting new people, encountering new situations and living here has become more of a joy and less of something to endure. Thus we have been very busy having fun lately. To wit:
On Saturday, we had arrangements to revisit the elephant sanctuary that I wrote about previously. The word was that they just received their elephants and were sufficiently adjusted to their new home to have a couple visitors. So a small group of us drove out to Elephant Valley Thailand to celebrate with the owners, Jack and Brigit. We spent half a day observing these four magnificent creatures eating bamboo and tall grass, throwing leaves around, trumpeting and stomping in the mud, and generally looking very comfortable and happy. We even had a chance to feed them some bananas, their favorite food. It was fantastic to see the development of the sanctuary, the infrastructure, the rehabilitation of the land, and the introduction of the elephants all finally coming together into a beautiful, harmoniously working system.
That same day, our lovely friend Irena, bless her heart, came to our house to watch the kids while Jess and I had a night on the town for my birthday celebration. We had heard that there was a little cafe downtown featuring live jazz, and since all live music had been cancelled for the mourning period of 30 days, this was even more of a treat, because it was an exception to the ban. Le Petit Cafe was a perfect place to start our evening. It was dark, intimate, and friendly. In fact, when the band got on stage, the singer noticed the two farang sitting in the back, and asked us (through the microphone) "Do you speak Thai?" We shook our heads "no" so she proceeded to translate everything she had said in English, which, it turns out, was an explanation of how the music they were going to play had been composed by the king as a lament about being away from his wife. It was a bit embarrassing to be singled out in front of everyone, but at the same time, we felt very welcomed and accepted too.
After Le Petit Cafe, we headed into the part of the city that is known for it's mostly farang bars. We went only because we had been hearing about these places for the past 4 months and hadn't ever visited this area, so it was a perfect time to find out what it was like. And now that we know, we don't have to go back....it was that underwhelming. Nevertheless, we had fun because we were together, having intelligent adult conversation uninterrupted by children for the first time in a long time. And there was beer.
On Sunday, we decided to check out an area by the river that seemed to be some kind of carnival. We drove in and realized it was part of the Loy Krathong Festival. This is one of Thailand's biggest festivals each year. It celebrates the water goddess who supplies the people with life giving water. People make or buy Krathongs, which are little rafts that hold flowers, incense, candles and sometimes small amounts of money as an offering to the goddess. They then float the krathongs down the river. Well, apparently, they also have carnivals too, so we walked around with the kids playing games of chance and skill, shopping and eating treats. It was yet another unique experience for us to enjoy and remember as part of our time here.
Then, on Sunday night, we went out to a delicious dinner with Irena and our other friends Ady, Sandy and their beautiful daughter. Who knew you could get life-changingly delicious barbecue ribs in Chiang Rai??? Another place we had heard about since we arrived was 71 degrees Celsius, a small but very popular restaurant not far from our house. It is deservedly famous for its ribs, but also features cocktails and salads. I didn't find out about the salads first hand, but I can vouch for the reputation of the ribs. For a few minutes, I had to close my eyes and just let the rolling waves of taste-pleasure wash through my brain as their house-made chili sauce dribbled down my chin and the cold Singha sat waiting for me to add it to the mix of delicate flavors in my mouth. And when the meat fest was over, we indulged in a fantastic chocolate cake made fresh by Ady.
Finally, at Radd's request. we walked across the bridge by the Loy Krathong festival to take in the carnival lights, as well as the lights from the floating krathongs moving peacefully along the current of the Kok River. It was a poetic ending to my Thai birthday weekend. One for the books, to be sure.
And so it is that we move into stage 3, where things are a bit easier and time moves a bit faster and our eventual departure from this beautiful place is considered with a bit more reluctance on everyone's part. Ahh but there are more good times ahead, so why waste time considering such thoughts? Better to sit outside,
considering and feeling the cool breeze now and appreciating it for its respite from the heat, but also for its temporal nature. When the winds blow us back to Montana, we will have time to look back and marvel at each moment we were given here. Then we will allow ourselves to feel sadness at its passing so quickly - but only for a moment.
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
Spinning Heads Under Seaside Heights
Well, it's been a long time between blog posts and a lot has happened - so much so that I don't feel compelled to write about all of it. But the two big events that occurred are the death of King Bhumibol and a vacation we took to the beach. The former being a huge blow to all Thais, both living here and abroad. The latter having no consequence at all to any Thai anywhere, but almost a necessity to our family.
To be honest,even these two big events I feel reluctant to write about because I don't feel like I can do either of them justice with my feeble attempt at writing. One event carries with it so much sadness and possible political ramifications for the entire country, but I, as a foreigner do not fully understand. So I believe I shall just stay silent on the topic and wish all Thai people my sincerest condolences.
The other event, our vacation, just seems unreal to me already. It seems so long ago and that we were gone for ages, though we returned only 3 days ago and were gone for 7. The landscape in Krabi Thailand is so different, so impossibly beautiful that we felt as though we were not only in another country, but on another planet. The karst cliffs that are one of the hallmarks of Krabi are magical to be near. I will share one moment as an example of what I mean.
One day we rented sea kayaks and paddled along the coast, along the edge of some limestone cliffs. These cliffs have stalactites all over them, as acidic water filters through and deposits minerals along the way. So you see caves inside the cliffs, overhangs that look like melted cheese, dripping into the sea, and some hardy vegetation growing where it can on the vertical face of these towering seaside drop offs. We spotted a tiny sandy beach that was isolated by the cliffs on either side and from behind, and paddled over to get out of the water and play in the breaking surf. Soon after we arrived, I noticed how water was falling from the tips of stalactites hundreds of feet above our heads, so that it seemed to be gently raining out of the clear blue sky. Staring up at the source, I saw that you could visually follow one particular drop of water as it fell and then catch it in your hand or on your tongue. What was even more amazing was that these water droplets seemed to be tiny packets of light because of the way the water held the sunlight shining on them. It was dreamlike in the best sense of the word. These types of magical sights were common during our week and transported all of us outside time and our daily lives into something altogether separate - very distant.
Returning home to Chiang Rai, we feel very strange to say the least. Everything is just as we left it, for the most part, and life continues on. It's been a struggle to get back into the groove - we are still trying. Meanwhile, we are missing friends and family back home worse than ever and are discussing how exactly to mentally frame our time here. How do we handle the down time? What do we focus on to make the most of this opportunity? It requires a lot of reflection and internal and external dialogue, but it's an interesting conversation!
To be honest,even these two big events I feel reluctant to write about because I don't feel like I can do either of them justice with my feeble attempt at writing. One event carries with it so much sadness and possible political ramifications for the entire country, but I, as a foreigner do not fully understand. So I believe I shall just stay silent on the topic and wish all Thai people my sincerest condolences.
The other event, our vacation, just seems unreal to me already. It seems so long ago and that we were gone for ages, though we returned only 3 days ago and were gone for 7. The landscape in Krabi Thailand is so different, so impossibly beautiful that we felt as though we were not only in another country, but on another planet. The karst cliffs that are one of the hallmarks of Krabi are magical to be near. I will share one moment as an example of what I mean.
One day we rented sea kayaks and paddled along the coast, along the edge of some limestone cliffs. These cliffs have stalactites all over them, as acidic water filters through and deposits minerals along the way. So you see caves inside the cliffs, overhangs that look like melted cheese, dripping into the sea, and some hardy vegetation growing where it can on the vertical face of these towering seaside drop offs. We spotted a tiny sandy beach that was isolated by the cliffs on either side and from behind, and paddled over to get out of the water and play in the breaking surf. Soon after we arrived, I noticed how water was falling from the tips of stalactites hundreds of feet above our heads, so that it seemed to be gently raining out of the clear blue sky. Staring up at the source, I saw that you could visually follow one particular drop of water as it fell and then catch it in your hand or on your tongue. What was even more amazing was that these water droplets seemed to be tiny packets of light because of the way the water held the sunlight shining on them. It was dreamlike in the best sense of the word. These types of magical sights were common during our week and transported all of us outside time and our daily lives into something altogether separate - very distant.
Returning home to Chiang Rai, we feel very strange to say the least. Everything is just as we left it, for the most part, and life continues on. It's been a struggle to get back into the groove - we are still trying. Meanwhile, we are missing friends and family back home worse than ever and are discussing how exactly to mentally frame our time here. How do we handle the down time? What do we focus on to make the most of this opportunity? It requires a lot of reflection and internal and external dialogue, but it's an interesting conversation!
Monday, October 10, 2016
Best Trip So Far
One of the really great things about living in Chiang Rai, is the opportunity to check out the rest of Northern Thailand so easily. Within an hour and a half's drive, you can be virtually anywhere in Northern corner of this beautiful land. Mind you, that's an hour and a half of driving along some of the most scenic landscape in South East Asia, so getting there is half the fun.
Thus, having the chance to intimately get to know this region, we take as much advantage as possible. Last weekend was no exception. We had been encouraged by several people recently to check out a place known as Doi Tung. But a quick search on Google showed that there is a large garden there and that's pretty much it. Not that I am against gardens or anything, but I have to say I wasn't terribly psyched to sit in the Soluna for oven an hour to look at a couple of flowers, especially since I know my kids are not going to be excited either. In other words, they're going to be bored as hell and cause us all kinds of grief because there aren't any "kids activities" anywhere even remotely close to where we are going. No thanks - I'll sit in front of the fan with a home-made juice pop and try to remember what the other non-summer seasons are like. But fortunately for me, we were out of juice pops, so off to Doi Tung!
As we headed north along the super highway, we couldn't help but notice the dark storm clouds up ahead. We were heading directly into a monsoon to spend our Saturday walking around a garden with 2 young children. But the rains held until we started to climb the mountain road that leads to the Queen's Villa and her garden. Then the sky opened and all the water in heaven came out at once, sending rivers of brown water down the mountain and across the road in several places. The Soluna's windshield wipers were woefully inadequate to deal with such a deluge. The Soluna's tiny engine was also woefully inadequate to propel us up the hill at any speed over 20 kph in low gear. This turned out to be just fine because the road twisted and turned so much that higher speeds would not have been advisable. By the time we reached the top, both kids were car sick, but the rains had lightened a little, so we got out with our little umbrellas to have a look at the place.
It turns out, the only thing on top of this mountain is the garden itself, the Queens villa, a lodge and a couple of coffee shop/restaurants - Google was pretty much right on. Regardless, after a quick bathroom break, we got a cappuccino, a cup of tea and our tickets to the garden and villa. It should be noted that Doi Tung is situated in such a way that even when you pull into the center of these buildings, you still can't really see much. The villa and gardens lay hidden behind tall and dense jungle foliage, so we weren't really sure what we were getting into yet. But as we descended some wide wooden stairs behind the ticket office, parts of the garden came into view, and I realized quickly that this place was special.
From the natural topography of the mountain, the garden was built to include orchid houses, small ponds, fountains, sculptures, a maze, and even the obligatory coffee stand. What immediately leaped to mind was the amount of design work, physical labor and love that went into the construction of this garden. Each rock, tree, flower, blade of grass seemed placed to evoke an emotion, to please the spirit, to pet the soul and make it purr. As a testament to this, I submit the following evidence: even the kids were impressed. They walked around each corner with appreciation, curiosity, and a smile. There was just something that held our attention and wouldn't let go. Of course, kids are slippery little suckers, so they were able to finally escape from its mesmerizing charm and wanted to move on to the villa, a corner of which is visible from part of the garden.
We walked up and around a winding path, following signs for the villa until we came to another sign that showed (through pictures) that wearing shorts into the building was a no-no. I stopped at the gate and was given a large pair of denim pants to wear over my clothes. These pants were a definite fashion statement, one that I was not sure I wanted to make at first. They were huge, both in the waste and along the legs. The female attendant fitted the chords around my hips and tied them gently and with great care. When I walked away, I felt like I was wearing traditional Northern Thai bell bottoms. But by the time I gave them back, I was wondering where I could purchase a pair for myself.
Afterwards, we marched on, up to the house past a brick wall with cascading tropical flowers, perfectly manicured trees with orchids blossoming along their trucks, and tourists wearing traditional Northern Thai bell bottoms. When we reached the front door, we were each given a self-guided tour headset and pointed in the right direction; then we were off. From the first fact, we were engrossed in our audio tour guide's description of the house, it's materials and purposes, its artifacts and history until the end of the tour on the far end of the house. The kids listened intently as they learned about the Queen mother and this unique villa that blends lanna style architecture with Swiss accents. One thing I thought was especially cool was the materials that were used. The outer siding was of split teak, but the inner walls were done in pine planks that were recycled from old shipping crates. A royal palace whose main interior feature was reused pine? Instant respect from me.
On we walked, again taking note of each amazing corner and artifact, appreciating what were were hearing about this remarkable woman whose efforts resulted in replanting whole forests, supplanting poppy production with tea and coffee farming, as well as inspiring the local people to further their education. She spoke Thai, French and English equally well, which is to say native-like. And she started life as a "commoner," but married a prince - a story not unlike my own wife's, by the way. Be that as it may (or may not), we came to the end of the house and the end of the tour when we were confronted by an unexpected view. The clouds had cleared somewhat while we were inside and left us with an scene out of Lord of the Rings. There were small farms below us in the valley, with tiny houses clustered close together where the hills descended out of the mist. It is no wonder the Queen mother chose this for her villa and development project. The scene was utterly inspirational, to say the least.
After the tour, I regretfully returned my pants and felt naked without them. We walked slowly toward the car, but made a brief detour at "the bazaar." This was basically just a few tables set up to sell local handicrafts and produce. We bought a few plums and a pomegranate for the ride home and said goodbye to this truly spiritual place. Everyone in the family felt happy to have come and experience something so outside of our normal routine and "Western" lives. We will come back, more than once probably, to wander the mountain and absorb the tranquility, beauty and soul of Doi Tung.
Thus, having the chance to intimately get to know this region, we take as much advantage as possible. Last weekend was no exception. We had been encouraged by several people recently to check out a place known as Doi Tung. But a quick search on Google showed that there is a large garden there and that's pretty much it. Not that I am against gardens or anything, but I have to say I wasn't terribly psyched to sit in the Soluna for oven an hour to look at a couple of flowers, especially since I know my kids are not going to be excited either. In other words, they're going to be bored as hell and cause us all kinds of grief because there aren't any "kids activities" anywhere even remotely close to where we are going. No thanks - I'll sit in front of the fan with a home-made juice pop and try to remember what the other non-summer seasons are like. But fortunately for me, we were out of juice pops, so off to Doi Tung!
It turns out, the only thing on top of this mountain is the garden itself, the Queens villa, a lodge and a couple of coffee shop/restaurants - Google was pretty much right on. Regardless, after a quick bathroom break, we got a cappuccino, a cup of tea and our tickets to the garden and villa. It should be noted that Doi Tung is situated in such a way that even when you pull into the center of these buildings, you still can't really see much. The villa and gardens lay hidden behind tall and dense jungle foliage, so we weren't really sure what we were getting into yet. But as we descended some wide wooden stairs behind the ticket office, parts of the garden came into view, and I realized quickly that this place was special.
From the natural topography of the mountain, the garden was built to include orchid houses, small ponds, fountains, sculptures, a maze, and even the obligatory coffee stand. What immediately leaped to mind was the amount of design work, physical labor and love that went into the construction of this garden. Each rock, tree, flower, blade of grass seemed placed to evoke an emotion, to please the spirit, to pet the soul and make it purr. As a testament to this, I submit the following evidence: even the kids were impressed. They walked around each corner with appreciation, curiosity, and a smile. There was just something that held our attention and wouldn't let go. Of course, kids are slippery little suckers, so they were able to finally escape from its mesmerizing charm and wanted to move on to the villa, a corner of which is visible from part of the garden.
We walked up and around a winding path, following signs for the villa until we came to another sign that showed (through pictures) that wearing shorts into the building was a no-no. I stopped at the gate and was given a large pair of denim pants to wear over my clothes. These pants were a definite fashion statement, one that I was not sure I wanted to make at first. They were huge, both in the waste and along the legs. The female attendant fitted the chords around my hips and tied them gently and with great care. When I walked away, I felt like I was wearing traditional Northern Thai bell bottoms. But by the time I gave them back, I was wondering where I could purchase a pair for myself.
Afterwards, we marched on, up to the house past a brick wall with cascading tropical flowers, perfectly manicured trees with orchids blossoming along their trucks, and tourists wearing traditional Northern Thai bell bottoms. When we reached the front door, we were each given a self-guided tour headset and pointed in the right direction; then we were off. From the first fact, we were engrossed in our audio tour guide's description of the house, it's materials and purposes, its artifacts and history until the end of the tour on the far end of the house. The kids listened intently as they learned about the Queen mother and this unique villa that blends lanna style architecture with Swiss accents. One thing I thought was especially cool was the materials that were used. The outer siding was of split teak, but the inner walls were done in pine planks that were recycled from old shipping crates. A royal palace whose main interior feature was reused pine? Instant respect from me.
On we walked, again taking note of each amazing corner and artifact, appreciating what were were hearing about this remarkable woman whose efforts resulted in replanting whole forests, supplanting poppy production with tea and coffee farming, as well as inspiring the local people to further their education. She spoke Thai, French and English equally well, which is to say native-like. And she started life as a "commoner," but married a prince - a story not unlike my own wife's, by the way. Be that as it may (or may not), we came to the end of the house and the end of the tour when we were confronted by an unexpected view. The clouds had cleared somewhat while we were inside and left us with an scene out of Lord of the Rings. There were small farms below us in the valley, with tiny houses clustered close together where the hills descended out of the mist. It is no wonder the Queen mother chose this for her villa and development project. The scene was utterly inspirational, to say the least.
After the tour, I regretfully returned my pants and felt naked without them. We walked slowly toward the car, but made a brief detour at "the bazaar." This was basically just a few tables set up to sell local handicrafts and produce. We bought a few plums and a pomegranate for the ride home and said goodbye to this truly spiritual place. Everyone in the family felt happy to have come and experience something so outside of our normal routine and "Western" lives. We will come back, more than once probably, to wander the mountain and absorb the tranquility, beauty and soul of Doi Tung.
Monday, September 26, 2016
Vincent Vega Was Right: "It's the little differences"
In one of my all-time-favorite movies, Pulp Fiction, one of the main characters, Vincent Vega, delivers a classic dialogue with another main character, Jules Winnfield. Having just returned from an extended stay in Europe, Vincent is explaining to Jules the various differences in law, specifically pertaining to hash, between Amsterdam and in the U.S. And as Vincent reflects, he breaks it down to this conclusion, "But you know what the funniest thing about Europe is? It's the little differences. I mean they got the same shit over there that they got here, but it's just there, there it's a little different."
Well I think that perfectly summarizes how I've been feeling about Thailand, and I mean this in a positive way, as Vincent Vega does. Here, it's just a little different. "Example?" as Jules would say.
Well, take water for instance. We have water that comes out of our taps and shower heads, but no one drinks it. It would most likely make you sick very quickly. Instead, everyone drinks drinking water that they get delivered to their house, either in a large 5 gallon-sized bottle, or, as we do, in crates of 1 liter bottles, 20 to a crate. In our neighborhood, the water guys come by on Thursday morning. We simply leave our empty crates and bottles on the porch with payment in a small plastic bag, and the guys replace them with full bottles. How much does it cost for a week's worth of drinking water? About 90 baht for 3 crates, or a little less that $2.50.
Similarly, we don't have gas pipes supplying natural gas to our stoves, so everyone here has a propane bottle under their kitchen counter, much like a barbecue back home in the States. When the gas runs out, you call the delivery guy in your area and he's there in 10 minutes. Ours ran out about 3 weeks ago, so our beautiful neighbor called for us. The delivery guy came in on a motorbike with this extremely heavy gas tank bungee strapped to the back. He brought it in, hooked it up, and charged us about 300 baht, or about $8.20. This should last a couple of months.
But for us, "the funniest thing" about Thailand is the little differences....between the people. People here, as an entire culture, are a lot more accepting of other people. Whatever makes you different, be it your physical appearance, your voice, your lifestyle, your religion, your country of origin, is OK here. It's OK. In Thai, they say, "mai pen rai." which means several things, but at its core is the idea of "it isn't a big deal." Therefore, it's OK. This attitude (or is it a lack of attitude?) is impossible to miss for an outsider. I have never once seen a Thai person lose his/her cool at another person, though I'm told it does happen occasionally, of course. And when you leave your house, you see it everywhere. Buddhists and Muslims shopping at the market. mai pen rai. A small group of "lady boys" applying makeup as they drink their beers next to a group of straight young men at the bar. mai pen rai. A goofy-assed white American (me) absolutely butchering the Thai language as he tries to buy a watermelon smoothie (delicious!) for his two Thai kids who don't speak Thai. mai pen rai. And yes, driving your motorbike sans helmet and holding an umbrella with one hand as your two kids sit behind you, also sans helmet. mai pen rai.
Perhaps this approach to living is also more obvious to us now because of this year's election in the U.S. It's an historical time. Historical in the sense that the xenophobia bubbling to the surface has fouled the air in our country many times throughout history: It was once the Irish, the Italians, the Germans, the Chinese, the Mexicans... the list goes on and on but the pattern stays the same. We are looking for a scapegoat to sacrifice. Doing so will solve all our problems, except that it won't.
I wonder if everyone could see and experience the beauty, benefit and practicality of mai pen rai, what would happen? Could we adopt this attitude just a little? Could we just ignore the things that make us appear different, knowing that it's not a big deal?
Alas, the little differences are calling me away now. I have to move the clothes off the clothes line before the last of the monsoon rains come and soak them again. There's also the issue of cleaning off the gecko poop from the window ledges. mai pen rai, mai pen rai, mai pen rai, mai pen rai........
Well I think that perfectly summarizes how I've been feeling about Thailand, and I mean this in a positive way, as Vincent Vega does. Here, it's just a little different. "Example?" as Jules would say.
Well, take water for instance. We have water that comes out of our taps and shower heads, but no one drinks it. It would most likely make you sick very quickly. Instead, everyone drinks drinking water that they get delivered to their house, either in a large 5 gallon-sized bottle, or, as we do, in crates of 1 liter bottles, 20 to a crate. In our neighborhood, the water guys come by on Thursday morning. We simply leave our empty crates and bottles on the porch with payment in a small plastic bag, and the guys replace them with full bottles. How much does it cost for a week's worth of drinking water? About 90 baht for 3 crates, or a little less that $2.50.
Similarly, we don't have gas pipes supplying natural gas to our stoves, so everyone here has a propane bottle under their kitchen counter, much like a barbecue back home in the States. When the gas runs out, you call the delivery guy in your area and he's there in 10 minutes. Ours ran out about 3 weeks ago, so our beautiful neighbor called for us. The delivery guy came in on a motorbike with this extremely heavy gas tank bungee strapped to the back. He brought it in, hooked it up, and charged us about 300 baht, or about $8.20. This should last a couple of months.
But for us, "the funniest thing" about Thailand is the little differences....between the people. People here, as an entire culture, are a lot more accepting of other people. Whatever makes you different, be it your physical appearance, your voice, your lifestyle, your religion, your country of origin, is OK here. It's OK. In Thai, they say, "mai pen rai." which means several things, but at its core is the idea of "it isn't a big deal." Therefore, it's OK. This attitude (or is it a lack of attitude?) is impossible to miss for an outsider. I have never once seen a Thai person lose his/her cool at another person, though I'm told it does happen occasionally, of course. And when you leave your house, you see it everywhere. Buddhists and Muslims shopping at the market. mai pen rai. A small group of "lady boys" applying makeup as they drink their beers next to a group of straight young men at the bar. mai pen rai. A goofy-assed white American (me) absolutely butchering the Thai language as he tries to buy a watermelon smoothie (delicious!) for his two Thai kids who don't speak Thai. mai pen rai. And yes, driving your motorbike sans helmet and holding an umbrella with one hand as your two kids sit behind you, also sans helmet. mai pen rai.
Perhaps this approach to living is also more obvious to us now because of this year's election in the U.S. It's an historical time. Historical in the sense that the xenophobia bubbling to the surface has fouled the air in our country many times throughout history: It was once the Irish, the Italians, the Germans, the Chinese, the Mexicans... the list goes on and on but the pattern stays the same. We are looking for a scapegoat to sacrifice. Doing so will solve all our problems, except that it won't.
I wonder if everyone could see and experience the beauty, benefit and practicality of mai pen rai, what would happen? Could we adopt this attitude just a little? Could we just ignore the things that make us appear different, knowing that it's not a big deal?
Alas, the little differences are calling me away now. I have to move the clothes off the clothes line before the last of the monsoon rains come and soak them again. There's also the issue of cleaning off the gecko poop from the window ledges. mai pen rai, mai pen rai, mai pen rai, mai pen rai........
The Ice Cream Man! Only here he comes up on a motorbike with a Nestle side car. mai pen rai
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Losing Weight and Getting Fat
It's been slowly dawning on me, this realization of what is happening to me. You see, the differences between our lifestyle here and in Montana are actually kind of slight and subtle, so it's difficult to notice the effects these differences are having. We walk a line between accepting new tastes and behaviors and finding a way to comfort ourselves with the familiar. Some basic examples that leap to mind are entertainment and food. We are starting to get twitchy for NFL Sundays with friends and American beer and homemade nachos that should probably have a building inspector approve its structural integrity before being carried across the house to the living room. I'm still not sure how we are going to satisfy this need here in Thailand, but we're looking into all sorts of possibilities. Another example is what we eat on a daily basis. At home in Montana, it was Mexican at least once - if not twice - a week. Here, a small bag of tortillas are hard to find, and if they can be found, they are of poor quality and very expensive. What to do? We learned how to make our own. Homemade salsa and guacamole are easy and cheap to make here, too. But other than that, our diets have transformed to rice-based, light and healthy (though predictable). Rice, chicken, vegetable stir fry again? Sorry kids, it's hard to shop here and think of new dishes that everyone likes. Get used to it.
Beer is another thing. When I first arrived in Chiang Rai, I got very sick for about a week. I couldn't eat almost anything and I wouldn't have dreamed of having a beer at the time. After recovering, I felt strangely less attracted to alcohol, at least to having more than one beer at a time. Even now, two months later, I hold the bottle of Chang like it could explode in my hand and send shards of glass into my eyes. It gives me a slight sense of danger, as if I have to acknowledge its power, so that now I drink my one beer in a glass with ice and I'm done.
All this has led, for me, into a noticeable weight loss. Two notches off my belt and some shorts that I can't wear anymore because they just slide down to my ankles. Ch. ch. ch. ch. changes. This is what's happening to me: I am eating fewer times throughout the day. I am eating less food when I do eat. I am eating lighter, healthier food. And I am drinking less alcohol. This is a result of a mix of my environment and my experiences here, and in the end, of course, I feel a lot better, healthier, and I don't miss half-pound barbecue bacon burgers with fries and two or three IPAs. Ok, that last part is a lie, but only in theory do I miss meals like that.
Now, what about getting fat? This is more of a hope I have for the future than a current reality, as we continue to figure out our finances and how to stabilize our budget. I long to construct a life like The Kinks sing about in "Sunny Afternoon":
And I love to live so pleasantly,
Live this life of luxury,
Lazing on a sunny afternoon.
In the summertime
In the summertime
In the summertime
Beer is another thing. When I first arrived in Chiang Rai, I got very sick for about a week. I couldn't eat almost anything and I wouldn't have dreamed of having a beer at the time. After recovering, I felt strangely less attracted to alcohol, at least to having more than one beer at a time. Even now, two months later, I hold the bottle of Chang like it could explode in my hand and send shards of glass into my eyes. It gives me a slight sense of danger, as if I have to acknowledge its power, so that now I drink my one beer in a glass with ice and I'm done.
All this has led, for me, into a noticeable weight loss. Two notches off my belt and some shorts that I can't wear anymore because they just slide down to my ankles. Ch. ch. ch. ch. changes. This is what's happening to me: I am eating fewer times throughout the day. I am eating less food when I do eat. I am eating lighter, healthier food. And I am drinking less alcohol. This is a result of a mix of my environment and my experiences here, and in the end, of course, I feel a lot better, healthier, and I don't miss half-pound barbecue bacon burgers with fries and two or three IPAs. Ok, that last part is a lie, but only in theory do I miss meals like that.
Now, what about getting fat? This is more of a hope I have for the future than a current reality, as we continue to figure out our finances and how to stabilize our budget. I long to construct a life like The Kinks sing about in "Sunny Afternoon":
And I love to live so pleasantly,
Live this life of luxury,
Lazing on a sunny afternoon.
In the summertime
In the summertime
In the summertime
Many expats move to Thailand because their Dollars or Euros or Kronor or whatever go further. They can live at a higher standard than they could back home. For us at present, I don't know if that's true. At least it doesn't feel like it. I'm sure that has something to do with the fact that it took me over a month to find a job and we had to spend a lot of money upfront to put down on our house, buy our car, and just secure a lot of odds and ends that were necessary to live. Now, the dust is settling a little and we're hoping to move on up (to the East side). I'll let you know how that goes, but I just had an interesting little epiphany about that: Jess and I are constantly trying to figure out how to have more free time to pursue the activities that make life worth living, like spending time with the kids, being out in nature, enjoying a nice meal, whatever. On the other hand, we often complain to each other about wanting more money to "get our piece of the pie." Now it occurs to me that these two things are almost mutually exclusive. Either you work harder and work more to get more money, or you pull back and take the free time. Having both is the holy grail! Is it only a myth? I'll meditate on that a while and when I have it all figured out, you'll see the infomercial for the answer to it all at 4 AM.
Just kidding! Here's the answer - for free:
What's happening to me? I guess I'm getting more philosophical about life - what matters and what may come. In the end, the conclusion I see coming is, "don't think about it too much - if you can help it." Life is fleeting. It's like a bus ride: You can pass the time thinking about how uncomfortable it is, how boring perhaps, how you wish you could speed up the time and get to where you're going - or you can realize that there are beautiful things right in front of you for you to notice and wonder at and appreciate. The sunset, rainwater catching sunlight on a lotus leaf or concrete elephants romping in the local watering hole at a riverside park.
Subtle changes indeed.
Just kidding! Here's the answer - for free:
What's happening to me? I guess I'm getting more philosophical about life - what matters and what may come. In the end, the conclusion I see coming is, "don't think about it too much - if you can help it." Life is fleeting. It's like a bus ride: You can pass the time thinking about how uncomfortable it is, how boring perhaps, how you wish you could speed up the time and get to where you're going - or you can realize that there are beautiful things right in front of you for you to notice and wonder at and appreciate. The sunset, rainwater catching sunlight on a lotus leaf or concrete elephants romping in the local watering hole at a riverside park.
Subtle changes indeed.
Sunday, September 4, 2016
Stage 2 - in effect
According to the internet (and Princeton University), there are 4 stages of cultural adjustment. The first stage is known as the Honeymoon, where everything is not only new, but also exciting and interesting and the traveler feels "Euphoric." He/she finds interest in the slightest details of the new environment. He/she is motivated to learn and experience new things. He/she feels like he/she isn't going to have any problems adjusting. I would say for Jess and me, that period is over.
We have moved into the second stage: Culture Shock. This period is marked by the traveler's frustration at small problems. Feelings of helplessness and stress pervade. He/she is homesick and misses family and friends. That's us. The past week has been challenging for us, to say the least. Issues with obtaining my visa, a lack of communication regarding important work related details, kids getting sick...and all the while, you just wish you could go hiking or get on your bike, or just not drive through clouds of blue exhaust. It all came to a head for me last week driving back and forth between my work and Jess' school and thinking about the endless hoops of visa paperwork and signatures and stamps and at the same time realizing that the one thing I did not want to happen was happening: I had recreated the same busy and stressful life I had back in Bozeman in 6 short weeks of being here. Now I need to undo what I have done. I need to say no to people and not work as much as they want me to.
For Jess, just having had her 40th birthday this weekend, I think she misses home more than anyone. Despite a nice weekend up north gazing at the Mekong River and wondering about life on the other side, the happiness was tempered by the absence of old friends and family. We are both feeling a little trapped by the language and cultural barriers that exist whether you notice them at first or not. Little things that are so easy to do at home turn into frustrating obstacles here. And in the end, you realize this is all temporary, so why stress yourself out? As I said, say "no" to people to give yourself the right amount of responsibility and obligation and enjoy the rest of your time doing what you love to do. That applies to everyone, not just those living for a year abroad.
Stages 3 and 4 in our cultural adjustment will come eventually. We will gain perspective and start to feel more at home here. But right now, the little things that we perceive as "illogical" or "inefficient" are driving us crazy. As a brief example, I have to get on a bus tomorrow morning and go to Chiang Mai, three and a half hours away, to go to the U.S. Consulate in order to swear in an affidavit that I am married to Jessica. Immigration here considers that more valid than the actual marriage certificate. Then I will travel three and a half hours back to Chiang Rai, and even after that, I may or may not have to leave the country at some point in the future, just to turn around and come back into the country as a tourist before I can get a work visa. According to Princeton University, at some point in my adjustment, I will understand this and accept it, but I'm telling you, right now it seems like that stage is pretty far off.
Until then, we will go to school and work, go on adventures, continue to meet new people, learn about our new country, and have fun; but we will also continue to miss home like hell.
The best neighbors we could ask for while we are living abroad!
We have moved into the second stage: Culture Shock. This period is marked by the traveler's frustration at small problems. Feelings of helplessness and stress pervade. He/she is homesick and misses family and friends. That's us. The past week has been challenging for us, to say the least. Issues with obtaining my visa, a lack of communication regarding important work related details, kids getting sick...and all the while, you just wish you could go hiking or get on your bike, or just not drive through clouds of blue exhaust. It all came to a head for me last week driving back and forth between my work and Jess' school and thinking about the endless hoops of visa paperwork and signatures and stamps and at the same time realizing that the one thing I did not want to happen was happening: I had recreated the same busy and stressful life I had back in Bozeman in 6 short weeks of being here. Now I need to undo what I have done. I need to say no to people and not work as much as they want me to.
For Jess, just having had her 40th birthday this weekend, I think she misses home more than anyone. Despite a nice weekend up north gazing at the Mekong River and wondering about life on the other side, the happiness was tempered by the absence of old friends and family. We are both feeling a little trapped by the language and cultural barriers that exist whether you notice them at first or not. Little things that are so easy to do at home turn into frustrating obstacles here. And in the end, you realize this is all temporary, so why stress yourself out? As I said, say "no" to people to give yourself the right amount of responsibility and obligation and enjoy the rest of your time doing what you love to do. That applies to everyone, not just those living for a year abroad.
Stages 3 and 4 in our cultural adjustment will come eventually. We will gain perspective and start to feel more at home here. But right now, the little things that we perceive as "illogical" or "inefficient" are driving us crazy. As a brief example, I have to get on a bus tomorrow morning and go to Chiang Mai, three and a half hours away, to go to the U.S. Consulate in order to swear in an affidavit that I am married to Jessica. Immigration here considers that more valid than the actual marriage certificate. Then I will travel three and a half hours back to Chiang Rai, and even after that, I may or may not have to leave the country at some point in the future, just to turn around and come back into the country as a tourist before I can get a work visa. According to Princeton University, at some point in my adjustment, I will understand this and accept it, but I'm telling you, right now it seems like that stage is pretty far off.
Until then, we will go to school and work, go on adventures, continue to meet new people, learn about our new country, and have fun; but we will also continue to miss home like hell.
The best neighbors we could ask for while we are living abroad!
Saturday, August 27, 2016
A Weekend Abroad - or more accurately, An Abroad Weekend
Sitting here listening to the frogs talk about the rain and the birds sing about their lunch, I am reflecting back on this past weekend. It was absolutely crammed with activity, but the activities we shared were unique in the sense that we could not have done anything like them back in Bozeman. And that fact alone makes me smile wide, remembering each event, knowing that this year abroad is worth its trouble and the reminder that there is still good in the world.
Saturday
Saturday morning started out with pouring rain and, therefore, the decision to leave the bathing suits and towels at home. Our plans for an afternoon dip were cancelled, but our morning plans were still on, and that was sure to be the more enjoyable one anyway. At 9:30 we met with friends Ady and Sandy at their house so we could carpool to our destination: Bethany Children's Home. As we learned along the way, this is a home for about 40 kids who either don't have parents or are just better off being away from their parents. They live together in a small compound on what I would consider the outskirts of Chiang Rai. We were there to help Ady and Sandy with an art project they wanted to do with the kids. That day, the plan was to have the kids come up with a group name and paint the name on a white T-shirt. Then they could wear the shirts during future art projects in the months to come. They quickly decided on "Bethany" since that's the name of their house. We passed out shirts, paints, brushes and paint trays and the kids got to work. What was really surprising though, was the care with which all the children approached their project. Most of them decided to sketch their art in pencil first so as not to make any unfix-able mistakes. Something told me that they were not accustomed to asking for more, especially if it was for something silly, like a "mistake" they made while painting. These are kids of the Bob Ross school: no mistakes, just happy accidents.
As the children painted happily, we walked around the room taking photos and observing. Radd, Suni and Ady and Sandy's daughter made their own shirts right along with the kids of Bethany, though they did their own personalized designs. We also got to meet the pastor who founded the house and others who help run it and fund raise for it. I was truly inspired by their dedication to this unparalleled worthy cause and could have stayed all day, but as lunch time approached, everyone was too hungry to paint, so we cleaned up, took more photos, passed out snacks and treats, and headed back into town for the second part of our day.
What better place to eat lunch after spending the morning at an orphanage, than a cafe whose mission is to employ and aid young people who were rescued from child trafficking? We couldn't think of any, so to Destiny Cafe we went. Destiny is located close to the clock tower in Chiang Rai. This is a very central location and a landmark to anyone who's ever been here. Anyway, walking into the place, I was struck by how Western it is. In fact, all of the customers who were in the place when we entered, when we ate, and when we left were farang (this is the Thai word for anyone who appears to be from a European heritage.) That's not good or bad, just sayin'. Anyway, the menu was great, offering both traditional Thai fare and delicious looking Western food like burgers, pizza and waffles. Suni can attest to the waffle's deliciousness - whipped cream and strawberry sauce don't disappoint 7 year olds. The adults all chose Thai food though, and that didn't disappoint either. The price was right, the food was good and the feeling of supporting this enterprise was warm and fuzzy, No complaints.
After heading home, we chilled out for a while and talked about the day we had had. Then, the rain cleared and we decided to go down to the Saturday walking street. Radd was looking for a "bucket hat" and Suni always loves to look at clothes and makeup. Radd found his hat almost right away, and not for the 50 baht he had seen last week. This one was perfect and only 20 baht. That's about 58 U.S. cents! I guess because we saved some cash, Jess and Radd went off to spend some money on massages. Just down from the hat stand were groups of massage beds under small tents with masseuses like carnival barkers trying to get passers by in for a cheap rub. They opted for a half hour massage and paid about 140 baht ($4 for the both of them) Unfortunately, Jess left the tent in more pain than when she went in, but Radd had a great time being bent, squeezed, twisted and pulled. Afterwards, we walked on and found a bouncy house set up off to the side. The kids were excited to do something familiar to them, and so we agreed. They spent about 20 minutes jumping around in the humid Thai night air, under the lights of the walking street, and surrounded by people from a very different culture but sharing the exact same emotions and experience. It made me smile.
That was enough for one day, so we drove home in the Soluna, wiping away the fog on the windows and cursing the fact that this "car" was designed without defrost vents under the windshield.
Home sweet home.
Sunday
Believe me when I say that it is a rare weekend day when our family wakes up with no plans. But on this day, we certainly did. That all changed after breakfast when I got a text inviting us to a Sunday potluck south of town on a property being developed into an elephant refuge. I had heard about this project a few weeks earlier at another potluck and was really excited to check it out. In fact, the folks behind this project have owned another elephant refuge in Cambodia for the past 10 years and only recently came to Chinag Rai to start this new one. So, potluck in the jungle? Let's go!
Our contribution to the dinner was 3 barbecued chickens bought from a street vendor whose price fluctuates with the temperature. He's a nice guy, very smiley, but I can't understand how he charges me a different amount every time! Is it the color of my shirt? The day of the week? I don't know, but that day he only charged me 100 baht each, which was a new low, so I wasn't complaining.
Driving out to the property, we headed south out of town to the White Temple. This is by far the most famous landmark in Chinag Rai. Go ahead and do a Google image search of Chiang Rai and most of what you'll see is the White Temple. But instead of turning right to the temple, we made a left and followed banana fields for a few hundred meters until we came to an old, rusted red gate. Turning in there, we followed a disused driveway into the jungle, past heaps of broken concrete being quickly claimed by the vines and leaves. The rubble was from torn down chicken hatcheries that used to cover the property until the bird flu swept into southeast Asia about 20 years ago. We were told over a million chickens had to be killed in this location alone in order to stop the spread of the disease, and afterwards, the chicken operation was shut down permanently. Over the years the buildings rotted and the trees and grasses began to cover everything. Then a few months ago, Jack and Brigit came in from Cambodia to start an elephant camp. This is probably the best thing that could have happened to the land because, to make the property safe for elephants, they literally have to go over every square inch of soil to remove any potentially dangerous debris. This means months of methodically scouring 100 rai of land, sifting down into the soil and removing old wire, glass, broken concrete, old tools, rusted nails - anything that could pose a risk to an 8,000 pound elephant. We met them, the owners - not the elephants, under a tin roofed structure with no walls and only a few bamboo picnic tables and hammocks for furniture. There were small potted plants everywhere - future landscaping material for the refuge - and one small resident spider that looked like a Lego burglar. (See Below)
After introductions, we talked about the process of turning an old chicken hatchery into an elephant sanctuary and what they envision for the future of this place. Sitting out of the sun, looking over the tall grasses, vine-covered jungle and pitted dirt roads, I could easily imagine a couple Asian elephants wandering around, trumpeting happily to each other, pulling on branches and perhaps taking a handout from a farang. But the owners saw more than I did. A shipping container would be a small cafe. A grassy area would become a playground for kids. And there would even be housing for weary backpackers. With its close proximity to the White Temple and the owners expertise and devotion to the elephants, I know that this endeavor will be a success.
So, we spent the afternoon thusly: eating roasted chicken and pasta salad, drinking Chang in a glass with ice (it's what you do here) and talking about the land, the people, the elephants soon the come. The kids were sent on long walks around the jungle with directions to find 4 different seed pods, 5 different leaves and 2 interesting sticks, which they did. Whether their sticks were "interesting" or not was a matter of fierce debate, but the adults lost. When it was time to go, we thanked our hosts and new friends and began the 45 minute ride home through city traffic and choking exhaust. I wanted to turn around and go back, but I knew the kids had school in the morning and anyway, our home is quiet and relaxing too.
Another weekend come and gone. Another weekend into our year abroad. And another weekend closer to our return home. These particular two days, though, will stand out in our memories as one where we learned, we helped, we saw, we experienced, we connected and we grew together. I hope the weekends to come will be half as good as this one was - and with Jessica's 40th birthday coming up, who knows what could happen?
Saturday
Saturday morning started out with pouring rain and, therefore, the decision to leave the bathing suits and towels at home. Our plans for an afternoon dip were cancelled, but our morning plans were still on, and that was sure to be the more enjoyable one anyway. At 9:30 we met with friends Ady and Sandy at their house so we could carpool to our destination: Bethany Children's Home. As we learned along the way, this is a home for about 40 kids who either don't have parents or are just better off being away from their parents. They live together in a small compound on what I would consider the outskirts of Chiang Rai. We were there to help Ady and Sandy with an art project they wanted to do with the kids. That day, the plan was to have the kids come up with a group name and paint the name on a white T-shirt. Then they could wear the shirts during future art projects in the months to come. They quickly decided on "Bethany" since that's the name of their house. We passed out shirts, paints, brushes and paint trays and the kids got to work. What was really surprising though, was the care with which all the children approached their project. Most of them decided to sketch their art in pencil first so as not to make any unfix-able mistakes. Something told me that they were not accustomed to asking for more, especially if it was for something silly, like a "mistake" they made while painting. These are kids of the Bob Ross school: no mistakes, just happy accidents.
As the children painted happily, we walked around the room taking photos and observing. Radd, Suni and Ady and Sandy's daughter made their own shirts right along with the kids of Bethany, though they did their own personalized designs. We also got to meet the pastor who founded the house and others who help run it and fund raise for it. I was truly inspired by their dedication to this unparalleled worthy cause and could have stayed all day, but as lunch time approached, everyone was too hungry to paint, so we cleaned up, took more photos, passed out snacks and treats, and headed back into town for the second part of our day.
What better place to eat lunch after spending the morning at an orphanage, than a cafe whose mission is to employ and aid young people who were rescued from child trafficking? We couldn't think of any, so to Destiny Cafe we went. Destiny is located close to the clock tower in Chiang Rai. This is a very central location and a landmark to anyone who's ever been here. Anyway, walking into the place, I was struck by how Western it is. In fact, all of the customers who were in the place when we entered, when we ate, and when we left were farang (this is the Thai word for anyone who appears to be from a European heritage.) That's not good or bad, just sayin'. Anyway, the menu was great, offering both traditional Thai fare and delicious looking Western food like burgers, pizza and waffles. Suni can attest to the waffle's deliciousness - whipped cream and strawberry sauce don't disappoint 7 year olds. The adults all chose Thai food though, and that didn't disappoint either. The price was right, the food was good and the feeling of supporting this enterprise was warm and fuzzy, No complaints.
After heading home, we chilled out for a while and talked about the day we had had. Then, the rain cleared and we decided to go down to the Saturday walking street. Radd was looking for a "bucket hat" and Suni always loves to look at clothes and makeup. Radd found his hat almost right away, and not for the 50 baht he had seen last week. This one was perfect and only 20 baht. That's about 58 U.S. cents! I guess because we saved some cash, Jess and Radd went off to spend some money on massages. Just down from the hat stand were groups of massage beds under small tents with masseuses like carnival barkers trying to get passers by in for a cheap rub. They opted for a half hour massage and paid about 140 baht ($4 for the both of them) Unfortunately, Jess left the tent in more pain than when she went in, but Radd had a great time being bent, squeezed, twisted and pulled. Afterwards, we walked on and found a bouncy house set up off to the side. The kids were excited to do something familiar to them, and so we agreed. They spent about 20 minutes jumping around in the humid Thai night air, under the lights of the walking street, and surrounded by people from a very different culture but sharing the exact same emotions and experience. It made me smile.
That was enough for one day, so we drove home in the Soluna, wiping away the fog on the windows and cursing the fact that this "car" was designed without defrost vents under the windshield.
Home sweet home.
Sunday
Believe me when I say that it is a rare weekend day when our family wakes up with no plans. But on this day, we certainly did. That all changed after breakfast when I got a text inviting us to a Sunday potluck south of town on a property being developed into an elephant refuge. I had heard about this project a few weeks earlier at another potluck and was really excited to check it out. In fact, the folks behind this project have owned another elephant refuge in Cambodia for the past 10 years and only recently came to Chinag Rai to start this new one. So, potluck in the jungle? Let's go!
Our contribution to the dinner was 3 barbecued chickens bought from a street vendor whose price fluctuates with the temperature. He's a nice guy, very smiley, but I can't understand how he charges me a different amount every time! Is it the color of my shirt? The day of the week? I don't know, but that day he only charged me 100 baht each, which was a new low, so I wasn't complaining.
Driving out to the property, we headed south out of town to the White Temple. This is by far the most famous landmark in Chinag Rai. Go ahead and do a Google image search of Chiang Rai and most of what you'll see is the White Temple. But instead of turning right to the temple, we made a left and followed banana fields for a few hundred meters until we came to an old, rusted red gate. Turning in there, we followed a disused driveway into the jungle, past heaps of broken concrete being quickly claimed by the vines and leaves. The rubble was from torn down chicken hatcheries that used to cover the property until the bird flu swept into southeast Asia about 20 years ago. We were told over a million chickens had to be killed in this location alone in order to stop the spread of the disease, and afterwards, the chicken operation was shut down permanently. Over the years the buildings rotted and the trees and grasses began to cover everything. Then a few months ago, Jack and Brigit came in from Cambodia to start an elephant camp. This is probably the best thing that could have happened to the land because, to make the property safe for elephants, they literally have to go over every square inch of soil to remove any potentially dangerous debris. This means months of methodically scouring 100 rai of land, sifting down into the soil and removing old wire, glass, broken concrete, old tools, rusted nails - anything that could pose a risk to an 8,000 pound elephant. We met them, the owners - not the elephants, under a tin roofed structure with no walls and only a few bamboo picnic tables and hammocks for furniture. There were small potted plants everywhere - future landscaping material for the refuge - and one small resident spider that looked like a Lego burglar. (See Below)
After introductions, we talked about the process of turning an old chicken hatchery into an elephant sanctuary and what they envision for the future of this place. Sitting out of the sun, looking over the tall grasses, vine-covered jungle and pitted dirt roads, I could easily imagine a couple Asian elephants wandering around, trumpeting happily to each other, pulling on branches and perhaps taking a handout from a farang. But the owners saw more than I did. A shipping container would be a small cafe. A grassy area would become a playground for kids. And there would even be housing for weary backpackers. With its close proximity to the White Temple and the owners expertise and devotion to the elephants, I know that this endeavor will be a success.
So, we spent the afternoon thusly: eating roasted chicken and pasta salad, drinking Chang in a glass with ice (it's what you do here) and talking about the land, the people, the elephants soon the come. The kids were sent on long walks around the jungle with directions to find 4 different seed pods, 5 different leaves and 2 interesting sticks, which they did. Whether their sticks were "interesting" or not was a matter of fierce debate, but the adults lost. When it was time to go, we thanked our hosts and new friends and began the 45 minute ride home through city traffic and choking exhaust. I wanted to turn around and go back, but I knew the kids had school in the morning and anyway, our home is quiet and relaxing too.
Another weekend come and gone. Another weekend into our year abroad. And another weekend closer to our return home. These particular two days, though, will stand out in our memories as one where we learned, we helped, we saw, we experienced, we connected and we grew together. I hope the weekends to come will be half as good as this one was - and with Jessica's 40th birthday coming up, who knows what could happen?
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